I have to disagree however when you said, “Abstinence does no one any harm at the end of the day.” I will always remember a speech at General Synod by an elderly nun who had embraced her call to celibacy and valued it immensely. But she also said that celibacy must be a calling from God on the individual and that forced celibacy was, in her view, as abhorrent as forced marriage. She went on to describe the coldness and withering which affects the hearts of people who have been forced into celibacy against their will. In Genesis 2, God said of Adam, “It is not good for the man to be alone” and this is the default position of Scripture whatever the orientation of an individual.